LoveNPeace

問：在我們的一生中，無論是在學校、辦公室還是其它任何地方，我們都會經常被拿來與周圍的人比較。為什麼要這樣比較呢？為什麼人們不能欣賞我們自有的樣子呢？
 

Sadhguru：There are certain areas of life where our whole learning process is only because of the many other things that have happened in the past.You can write ABC because someone else also wrote ABC before you.By yourself you would not have written ABC.What you can do is not just coming out of you.What you can do is coming out of the experience of humanity.Writing ABC is coming out of the experience of language of thousands of generations of people. 
薩古魯：在生活的某些領域，我們整個學習過程，都只是基於很多過去的成就。你會寫ABC，是因為別人在你之前寫過ABC。光靠你自己是沒辦法寫出ABC的。你能做的事，並非只出於你自身的能力。你能做的事，源自整個人類的經驗。會寫ABC，就源自無數代人的語言經驗。
 

So many other things that you can do are also like this.It is not coming only out of you; it is coming because of everyone's contribution to you.Invariably， comparison becomes a necessity because if there is no comparison， you might be doing something silly in your life and you would think you are doing great.Hasn't it happened to you often enough? You thought you were doing fantastic.Then someone came by and they were doing things in such a way that you felt like an utter idiot.This comparison is needed.Otherwise everyone who is doing idiotic things will think he is a king by himself.
你能做的很多其它事，也是這樣的。你會做這些事，並非只因為你自身的能力，實際上每個人都貢獻了一份力量。這時候比較變得必要了，因為如果沒有比較存在，你可能在生活中做了蠢事，卻還以為自己做得不錯。這種情況對你而言還不夠常見嗎？你以為自己很厲害，其他人出現後，他們的做事方式立即就讓你傻眼了。這種比較是必要的。否則，每個人做著蠢事卻還以為自己是個君王。
 

This comparison is perfectly okay， but this is not about you.This is only about what you can do.This is just about your actions.In activity， all of us are differently capable.If we do not have benchmarks， we cannot improve our activity.Not everyone is driven by passion to do what they are doing， where they will anyway do their best.They need some benchmarks.There is nothing wrong with this.Otherwise， every day you will start from scratch and reinvent the wheel.
這種比較完全沒問題，但不是在比較你這個人，而只是在比較你能做的事。這只關乎你的行動。在行動中，我們每個人的能力各不相同。如果沒有參照，就無法提升。如果每個人都懷著熱情做事，他們終歸都會盡力做到最好，但現實並非如此，所以大家需要一些參照。這麼做沒什麼不好的。否則，你每天都要從零開始，重新發明輪子。
 

The Top of Heap
勝人一籌
 

Only if you have a problem in knowing that someone is doing better than you， then this comparison is a problem.You should not have a problem that someone is doing better than you.I am always seeking someone who can do things better than me because then my life will become easy.I don't want to live with dumb people who cannot do things as well as me.If they can do things better than me， my life gets easier， better， and more beautiful.But if you are a horrible tyrant， you do not want anyone to do better than you.This is a silly way to exist.This foolishness has come into you because you are always trying to measure the person，"Am I bigger than him? Am I smaller than him?" because your whole effort is somehow to sit on top of the heap.
只有當你難以接受別人做得比你好時，這種比較才會成為問題。你不應該難以接受別人做得比你好。我就總是在尋找做得比我好的人，因為這樣我的生活會更輕鬆。我不想和一群做得不如我好的笨蛋一起生活。如果別人能做得比我好，我的生活就會更輕鬆、更舒適、更美妙。不過你要是個可怕的暴君，就不會想讓任何人做得比你好。這是種愚蠢的存在方式。你變得如此愚蠢，是因為你總是在衡量："我比他高大嗎？我比他弱小嗎？"，你所有的努力就是為了勝人一籌。
 

Your parents or the corporate sector goading you is simply because they are not interested in doing things well， they are only interested in being number one.They are not interested that you might run a hundred meters in seven seconds—nobody did seven seconds yet—they are only interested that you must be one inch ahead of the rest of the pack.This problem arises because people have a horrible sense of insecurity about themselves.Their whole life is invested in looking a little better than someone else.This is a wasteful life because most probably you will not succeed and definitely you will not explore the full potential of who you are.You will be miserable—when you succeed and even when you don't， because constantly trying to stay ahead of someone is a miserable way to exist.The insecurity that someone may pull you down and exceed you is a horrible way to exist.
你的父母或你所在的公司部門鞭策你，是因為他們對做好事情並不感興趣，他們只對成為第一感興趣。你也許能在7秒鐘內跑完100米，但他們對此不感興趣—還沒有人能在7秒內跑完—他們只對你領先所有其他的選手感興趣，哪怕只領先一點點。這一問題源自人們對自身極度的不安全感。比別人看上去好一點就行，他們的一生全都投資在這件事上了。這真是浪費生命，一則你很可能不會成功，二則你肯定不會去探索你自身的全部潛力。你會變得很可悲—無論你成功了，還是沒成功—老想著超過別人，本身就是一種可悲的存在方式。擔心別人可能會拉下你超過你，因此而惶惶不安，這是一種可怕的存在方式。
 

The most fundamental thing is to fix your way of experiencing life.If you are joyful by your own nature， whatever you do， you will not get into this unhealthy state of life within yourself.You will participate in any kind of competition， but you are already blissful so you will do the best you can.Even if you come last， it is still beautiful because you have done your best.You will know the joy of action only when you are blissful by your own nature.If you are doing action to squeeze happiness out of life around you， then once in a way when there is a flash of success you are elated， but when it does not happen you will be miserable.
最根本的一件事，就是修正你體驗生活的方式。如果你本性喜悅，那麼不管做什麼，都不會陷入這種不健康的生活狀態。你會參與各種競爭，但因為內心已有的喜悅，你會做到最好。即使是最後一名，仍然很美好，因為你已經盡力了。只有當你本性是快樂的，你才會真正明白行動的快樂。如果你做一件事是為了從週遭的生命中搾取快樂，那麼一點點成功你就會欣喜若狂，失望時你又會痛苦萬分。
 

We are trying to plunge into the process of life without setting up the fundamental foundation that is needed for one to live a healthy life.The first and foremost thing that a child came with is， the moment his stomach is full he knows how to be joyful.Even an infant knows this.Only when he is hungry he yells， the rest of the time he is joyful.This is the fundamental fabric of life.Nature is clearly telling you this state of being joyful is necessary for you to live a healthy life.This has to be firmed up， established， insured.You have to insure your joy first and then get into activity.Then it does not matter whether activity goes up and down， you will not go up and down.
還沒有奠定起健康生活所需的基石，我們就試圖一頭扎進生活的洪流了。對小孩而言，首要的大事就是吃飽肚子，一旦吃飽了，他就知道怎樣快樂。連嬰兒都知道這個。只有飢餓時他才會哭喊，其餘時間他都是快樂的。這就是生命的根本原理。自然已清楚地告訴了你，這種喜悅的狀態是健康生活的必要條件。必須要建立、加強並確保這種狀態。你必須首先確保你的喜悅，然後再參與行動。這樣任憑你的人生起起伏伏，你都不會跟著起起伏伏。

愛與恩典

薩古魯

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