LoveNPeace

My dear friends, we love you so very much,
我親愛的朋友們，我們非常地愛你

We wish to be very loving with you today as we address a sensitive topic – one that if properly understood can grant you great freedom and grace, and this is the subject of"control."
今天我們希望能夠非常有愛地對待你，因為我們將會處理一個敏感的話題—如果正確的理解，會給予你很大的自由與優雅，這主題就是"控制"。

You have a saying on earth about certain individuals on your planet –"Oh he's a control freak! She's a control freak!"You say it as if this is an unusual ailment, but as we see it (and we say this with love), almost every human being upon the earth is a"control freak"in one way or another.
在地球上你們對於特定的個體有著一個稱呼—"哦，他是一個控制狂！她是一個控制狂！"你說得好像這是一個罕見的疾病，但在我們看來（我們伴隨著愛說），幾乎每個地球人在某種程度上都是"控制狂"。

We are not saying that most of you have any conscious desire whatsoever to bend others to do your bidding! Most of you would never dream of dictating another's choices, nor coercing them to do your will. Most of you would say,"I have no desire to control anyone else."We believe you! However, control can show up in very subtle and self-sabotaging ways.
我們並不是說大多數人都希望讓他人卑躬屈膝來執行你的命令！你們大多數人都不會想去命令他人做選擇，或強迫他人去執行你的意願。大多數人會說，"我不想要控制任何人。"我們相信你！然而，控制可以以非常微妙和自我破壞的方式出現。

For example, say you want to help someone you dearly love. Suppose they are sick or engaging in unhealthy behaviors. You teach them about proper nutrition. You share information that can help them. You suggest they see healers, counselors, intuitives, etc. All of these are very loving and kind suggestions.
比如，假設你想要幫助你深愛的人。假設他們生病或從事著不健康的行為。你教導他們適當的營養。你分享可以幫助他們的信息。你建議他們去看醫生、諮詢、相信內在直覺等等。這些都是非常有愛和仁慈的建議。

What do you do however, when this individual wants nothing to do with your kind offerings? What do you do when they continue to engage in behaviors that continue to hurt them, and in turn hurt you? Can you simply love them, allow them their path, and take care of your own joy? Or do you get frustrated and upset with them – angry that they won't listen to you or accept your help?
然而，當這個人不想接受你仁慈的提供時，你會怎麼做？當他們繼續從事會傷害自己的行為，反過來會傷害你時，你又會怎麼做？你還能愛他們，讓他們繼續他們的道路，並照顧好自己的喜悅嗎？還是你會沮喪和生氣—因為他們不聽你的或不接受你的幫助？

Dear ones with all love and respect, we must point out that getting frustrated with another when they won't listen is really a symptom of being frustrated with yourself… because you can't control them! Even if your desire is to assist someone you love dearly, you can't force them bend to your will.
親愛的一們，伴隨著愛和尊重，我們必須指出，當你因為他人不聽你的而變得沮喪，實際上這是一個對自己感到沮喪的症狀...因為你無法控制他們。即使你的願望是幫助你深愛的人，你也不能強迫他們屈服於你的意志。

Love offers. It doesn't insist. Love allows. It doesn't judge. Love is deeply honest and allows you to say,"I love you and care about you and want you to be happy and healthy but I no longer know what to tell you since you don't like my suggestions. I pray you find another way. It hurts me to watch you hurt. I'm going to go take charge of my own joy and well being. I'll be here if you need my assistance or suggestions. I'll be honest about what resonates with me and what does not."
愛提供。它不強求。愛允許。它不評判。愛是非常誠實的，會讓你去說，"我愛你，我關心你，我想要你開心和健康，但我不再知道該跟你說什麼，因為你不喜歡我的建議。我祈禱你會找到另一種方式。看著你受傷令我心痛。我會為自己的喜悅和福祉負起責任。如果你需要我的協助或建議我會在那。我會誠實述說什麼與我共振，什麼不"。

Then dear ones, allow yourselves your own health well-being, and joy, whereupon your loved one may feel a bit left out and perhaps tend to their own a little more carefully!
然後，親愛的一們，讓自己保持健康和快樂，雖然這會讓你心愛的人可能感到有點被冷落，但也許這會令他更加細心地照顧自己！

A second example of subtle control happens within your own psyche, when you want something and don't know what to do to make it come about. You want more money and don't know how to generate it. You want to heal a relationship and don't know how to do so. You want to find a new job but you haven't yet had any success. You want to solve a problem but don't know where to turn.
第二個微妙控制的例子發生在你的心智中，當你想要什麼，不知道該做什麼來使它發生。你想要更多的錢，不知道如何生成它。你想要療癒一段人際關係，不知道如何去做。你想要一份新工作，但你還未成功。你想要解決一個問題，但不知道從哪裡著手轉。

This is where most human minds start to take control! You worry. You over analyze. You search for solutions far past the heart's true desire to do so. You are trying to control the outcome, instead of relaxing into the arms of the Divine…
這是大多數人類頭腦開始控制的地方！你擔憂。你過度分析。你搜尋解決方案，超越了內心的真正願望。你試圖控制結果，而不是棲息於神的擁抱...

Give your problems to the Creator. Relax. Enjoy your day and understand that when the time comes to act you will be guided.
把你的問題交給造物主。放鬆。享受你的日子，並明白，當行動的時機到來，你將會被指引去做。

Our wish for all of you is that you would learn to notice, love, and soothe your inner control"freak."Reassure this part of yourself. Tell them that when you can't control another, you can love them through their lessons. Remind this part of yoruself, that when you don't know what to do, the universe does.
我們希望你們所有人都學會留意"愛"並撫慰內在的控制"狂"。安撫你的這個部分。告訴它們，當你無法控制他人，你可以通過愛他們來幫助他們的人生課程。提醒自己這個部分，當你不知道該怎麼做時，宇宙知道。

Speak to this part of yourself as you would speak to a worried child. It is simply a part of you that wants so much more for yourself or the world, yet doesn't know how to get there.
對你的這個部分說話就好像你在跟一個擔憂的孩子說話一樣。你的這個部分它只是想要為你或世界得到更多東西，但不知道如何用更好的方式去做。

When your inner"control freak"learns to F.R.E.A.C. (Finally Release Every Attempt to Control!) you will experience immense relief! You'll rest, knowing that you are deeply loved and guided. You'll breathe easy, knowing the universe has your back. You'll release yourself from being responsible for other adults, knowing that each soul must choose their path and the accompanying lessons.
當你內在的"控制狂"最終學會釋放每一個控制的嘗試，你會體驗巨大的慰藉！你會放鬆，知曉你被深深地愛著和指引著。你可以鬆一口氣，知曉宇宙支持著你。你將釋放自己對其他成年人的責任，並知曉每個靈魂必須選擇自己的道路以及相應的課程。

Releasing control in the situations where you really don't have it is the secret to enjoying a life of deep, and abiding peace… no matter what the world or those around you choose.
對你無法控制的情況釋放你的控制慾，這是享受一個深刻和持久和平生活的秘訣...無論世界或你周圍的人選擇什麼。

God Bless You! We love you so very much.— The Angels
上帝保佑你！我們非常地愛你—天使

原文：http://sananda.website/message-from-the-angels-via-ann-albers-august-4th-2018
通靈：Ann Albers
翻譯：Nick Chan
https://www.douban.com/note/685572838

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