LoveNPeace

The holiday season can be stressful for many of you.Due to its hectic nature and demands(many of them self imposed) it is common for people to get out of balance.That，combined with being around family members who may still be living by old conditioning and belief systems that do not match who you are and whose presence may very quickly bring to the surface unresolved hurts，is a recipe for getting triggered and reactive.Most enlightening human beings later feel great remorse for having that response and can be quite hard on themselves，indeed.
節日對你們許多人來說可能是有壓力的。由於其忙碌的性質和各種要求(其中許多是自我強加的)，人們會失衡是很正常的。再加上與周圍仍然活在舊的條件和信念體系的家人在一起，這些家人並不匹配你之所是，他們的存在可能會很快地使未解決的傷痛浮出表面，這會觸發自發性反應。大多數覺醒的人稍後會對產生那個反應感到後悔，會對自己非常嚴厲。

If you did get triggered during the holidays，the first thing to do is to simply forgive yourself.Understand this is a part of you that is seeking your love and compassion.What does that part of you need from you? Take the time to sit with it，to love it，to reassure it，to give it compassion and a safe space to be heard.The last thing that part of you needs is for you to be berating yourself.It needs your love and guidance，and that is well within your capability to give to yourself.
如果你在節日裡被觸發了，那麼要做的第一件事就是寬恕自己。明白這是你的一部分在尋求你的愛與同情。你的那個部分需要你什麼？花點時間與它同在，去愛它，去安撫它，給予它同情和一個安全的空間可以被聆聽。你的那個部分最不需要的就是你的斥責。它需要你的愛和指引，你完全能夠做到這一點。

Taking the time to tend to yourself first，with love and compassion，is the first step to being able to keep your balance during future holidays.Next，examine how you might have allowed yourself to get out of balance.Did you take on more than you should have? Did you over give and not allow yourself to receive assistance? What did you take on that really wasn"t necessary? How could you have improved your self care? Now is the ideal time to reexamine how you handle holidays and to move them into a better balance.
先花時間以愛心和同情心照顧好自己是你在節日期間保持平衡的第一步。接下來，檢查你如何使自己失衡。你是否承擔過多？你是否付出太多卻不允許自己接受協助？你納入了哪些其實真的沒有必要的事物？你如何能改善你的自我關懷？現在是重新檢查你的假期處理方式並使其達到更好更平衡的理想時間。

If you announce now how you will be changing things up for the next holidays，people will have plenty of time to adjust to the change and will not be shocked when the time comes.It's important to shift with how your family has grown.Are there new members of the family who can become part of your traditions and assist? Have children grown to be older and can now help more? Ask people how they would like to contribute.You might be surprised to realize there's more help available to you than you realized now that you are open to the help.How could you make holidays more manageable and more joyful for everyone involved，including you? What traditions are lovely and enjoyed by all that you wish to keep?
如果你現在宣佈你下個節日將如何進行改變，將有足夠的時間來適應改變，並且當時間到來時不會感到震驚。伴隨著你家人的成長程度轉變很重要。是否有著新的家庭成員可以成為協助的一部分？是否有孩子已經長大，現在可以提供更多幫忙？問問他們想要如何幫忙。一旦你向幫助敞開，你可能會驚訝地發現，你擁有比你現在所意識到的還要多的幫助。你要如何讓節日更加容易管理，讓每個人更加喜悅，包括你自己？哪些傳統是有愛的、令人享受的，是你希望保留的？

Last of all，take a moment to make a strategy on new ways you can respond if people do the things that you find difficult in future holiday get togethers.Write them down and leave them where you will find them next year，because humans have a tendency to just want to move on and forget.When you have a plan you won"t get caught off guard when those triggers occur and you will be able to respond in brand new ways because you will be prepared.
最後，花點時間策劃一個新的反應方式，如果有人做了你認為難以相處的事情你想要如何反應。把它們寫下來，把它們放在你會看到的地方，因為人類傾向於舊的習慣並忘記新的。所以，當你事先制定一個計劃時，可以幫助你在觸發反應當時不會措手不及，你能以新的方式做出回應，因為你是準備充分的。

Dear Ones，please do not beat yourselves up if you feel you could have handled things better.Use your regret to create new strategies that better serve everyone involved.Apologize if necessary.Accept apologies if you receive them.Stay focused on the apology if given or received as a loving connection point and resist getting drawn back into the same old issue if it starts to go there again.Remember，as you change the music，the dance steps change.
親愛的，如果你覺得自己可以做得更好，也請不要斥責自己。將你的後悔轉成去創造新的策略，來更好地服務每個涉及之人。如果有必要，去道歉。如果你收到道歉，接收它。專注於道歉，如果給予道歉或接收道歉是一個有愛的連接點，不要返回到同樣的舊問題中。記住，當你改變音樂時，舞步也會跟著改變。

Please know your families are where the conditioning and belief systems you are releasing and healing beyond were born，and because of that they are often the last territory you master.Be kind and gentle with yourselves，forgive yourselves and others for not knowing better，and know you can always choose differently next time.This is all part of your evolution and the triggers serve to shine a spotlight on where you need to direct your love and nurturing for yourself the most，and that is a wonderful and empowering thing.~Archangel Gabriel
請明白，你的家庭是你釋放和療癒超越"條件和信念體系"誕生的地方，因此，他們經常是你需要精通的最後一塊領地。對自己友善和溫柔，寬恕自己和他人，知曉你總是可以在下一次做出不一樣地選擇。這都是你進化的一部分，觸發作為一個聚光燈服務於你，照亮需要你的愛和滋養的地方，這是一件奇妙和授權的事情。~大天使加百利

Archangel Gabriel through Shelley Young
鏈接：https://www.jianshu.com/p/b145b6a122dc
翻譯：Nick Chan
Ask Gabriel(請問加百利)：
https://www.facebook.com/notes/trinity-esoterics/ask-gabriel/1989099964442945/?hc_location=ufi

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