LoveNPeace

As we close out this week's series of messages on boundaries， we would like to discuss how to know someone has changed enough to let them back into closer proximity to you.
隨著我們結束本周關於界線系列信息之際，我們想要探討如何知道某人已經發生了足夠的改變，以讓他們重新返回與你的親近。

You may have had to create a firm boundary with someone if their behaviour was inappropriate and unacceptable and wasn't changing despite your making your feelings known.If you have been in an unhealthy dance with another for a long time， suddenly becoming firm and deciding you no longer wish to continue with them can seem like a rude awakening.It can feel like shocking someone awake with a bucket of cold water when they have been in a deep sleep.
如果對方的行為是不恰當的，不可接受的，並且儘管你表達了你的感受但他們並未改變，那麼你可能需要創造一個堅定牢固的界線。如果你和一個人長時間處於一個不健康的關係中，突然變得堅定並感覺到你不再希望與那個人一起，這看似是一個唐突的甦醒。這感覺起來就像是用一桶冷水把正在熟睡中的人澆醒。

Any forced， unexpected change can throw another into what is often referred to as the dark night of the soul.Deep change often follows similar steps to the stages of mourning.And they are， in a sense， grieving the loss of the old way of being， even if that way of being was not for their highest good.Most people， when faced with this， go through the following stages:
任何被迫的、出乎意料的改變會讓一個人進入所謂的靈魂暗夜。深刻的改變通常會緊隨類似哀悼的階段。在某種意義上來說，他們就是在哀悼舊的存在方式，即使那個存在方式對他們最高的良善來說沒用。大多數人在面對這種情況時，會經歷以下階段：

Stage One：Shock/denial
第一階段：震驚/否認

Stage Two：Emotional reaction
第二階段：情緒反應

Stage Three：Trying to keep things the same without change
第三階段：試圖保持事物不變

Stage Four：Emotional bottom
第四階段：情緒觸底

Stage Five：Opening to change
第五階段：向改變敞開

Stage Six：Temptation to backslide
第六階段：被引誘去倒退

Stage Seven：True change
第七階段：真正的改變

It is common for people who are attempting to enforce better boundaries to falter when the person in question is in any of the earlier stages， but as you can see giving in too soon would not create any kind of lasting change.It would only be agreeing to continue the same old patterning.
當人們處於任何早期階段時，在建立更好的界線過程中產生動搖是很正常的，但正如你所見，太早放棄無法創造任何持久的改變。它只會繼續相同的舊模式。

People do change all the time， in fact， that is exactly what the energies you are in are insisting upon.There will absolutely be times when people change for the better and become a safe person to have near to you again.But true and lasting change is a process that requires self awareness， introspection， and true and consistent action steps that reflect their authentic desire to be different.
人時刻都在改變，事實上，這正是你的能量所堅持的。絕對會有人變得更好，成為一個安全的人可以再次靠近你的時候。但真正持久的改變是一個需要自我意識、自省、始終如一的過程，這些步驟反映了他們想要變得不一樣的真實渴望。

It is a wise human being who doesn't rush back in but allows the other the time and space they need to evolve out of the old patterning.If the person is willing to do the work of changing， and if you are willing to give them the space they need to do that work， as well as exploring and healing what made you a willing dance partner in the old patterning， there can absolutely be an opportunity to come back together in a new， far more healthy and mutually beneficial way.
不著急，給予他人時間和空間去進化來擺脫舊模式是明智的。如果那個人願意做改變的工作，如果你願意給予他們空間去做那個工作，以及探索和療癒，絕對有機會以一種新的、更加健康和互利的方式重聚。

Archangel Gabriel through Shelley Young
原文：https://trinityesoterics.com/daily-message
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